“Revolution might sound a little dramatic, but in this world, choosing authenticity and worthiness is an absolute act of resistance. Choosing to live and love with our whole hearts is an act of defiance. You’re going to confuse, piss off, and terrify lots of people— including yourself. One minute you’ll pray that the transformation stops, and the next minute you’ll pray that it never ends. You’ll also wonder how you can feel so brave and so afraid at the same time. At least that’s how I feel most of the time… brave, afraid, and very, very alive. Rising strong is the final piece of this transformation.”
– Brene Brown
I’m thinking of the young man (it could easily be a woman) in his 20’s (maybe even 30s) who is trying to get his life together after making a lot of personal mistakes. He feels like a failure, alone, and abandoned. He may even be angry at the world for the bag he was given.
What you’ve been through is not fair. The upbringing was rough…it wasn’t your fault. And yet this is what you have to come to grips with. You’ll need a lot of support, care, and love. There will be days when you can’t make sense of the deep pain you feel in your heart.
Your greatest choice today is to live as one who is willing to rise strong, WITH all the anxiety and stress. The gift of strength is for you to reclaim who you long to be. It’s unsettling, uncomfortable, and necessary. You must remember that you are the beloved! That is your real identity and at the core of who you are.
You’ll need community, care, and courage. You’ll need a power bigger than you.
And as a friend once said, don’t waste the pain. I’m not sure what exactly that means. But I’m starting to understand that with each set of waves (of pain), there is an opportunity to keep rising, growing, and being transformed.