Healthy Practices for Pastoral Leaders

To be in ministry for the long haul, I’m learning that it requires some support, vulnerability, and deep devotion to Jesus for sustaining faithfulness.  Rich Nathan (pastor of 30+ years) lists some great practices.  Check out the source page for more details on each practice. Source:   #1 Build a rock-solid daily personal devotional life with…

The 5-7 minute rule of talking about work with your spouse

The 5-7 minute rule of talking about work with your spouse: In countless counseling sessions, I’ve heard partners share their struggles with the “work conversations” when getting home after a long day. In the workplace setting, there are conflicts, crises, and criticism which takes an emotional toll. Naturally, a spouse might want to share their…

Playground Story on Patience

There’s a story of three parents at a playground watching their kids and how they each respond (or react) when their kids slip or fall. Hearing that their child slipped and fell, the first parent runs frantically to see the child.  In panic mode, the parent smothers the child and takes them away from the…

#LilacFire Update and Coping with Crisis

Lilac Fires 2017 Hoehn Community: Yesterday Bonsall, Fallbrook, Oceanside, Pala, and Murrietta were affected by the #LilacFire.  Many of our employees live in mandatory or voluntary evacuation areas.  Some have evacuated and are staying with friends or family members, where they are safe.  Others are staying home, hoping the fires are contained and don’t spread….

A Prayer of Desire by Thomas Merton

Source: A Prayer of Desire by Thomas Merton “My Lord God, I have no idea where I am going. I do not see the road ahead of me. I cannot know for certain where it will end. Nor do I really know myself, and the fact that I think that I am following your will…

Healthy Communication: What do I say?… How do I say it?

by Rafee Jajou Rafee serves as the employee staff care lead at Christian Bros and provides a pastoral presence in La Mesa.  He is a partner with Squarepatch (an employee care service).  He’s also my homie and good friend! I was raised in a home with a lot of unhealthy communication. Shaming and blame was almost…

What Makes Ministry Stressful

What follows are some reflections on chapter 2 of “That Their Work Will Be a Joy”, by Cameron Lee and Kurt Fredrickson.  (Amazon link:  http://a.co/0lWeM08).  It’s part of my first Doctorate of Ministry class at Fuller Seminary.  All quotes are from the book.  I wholeheartedly recommend it to everybody in ministry and seminary!   What…

The Playgrounds

Playgrounds.  That’s how I relate to the major areas of my life.  I take my life playfully serious. I have a few different playgrounds in my life.  These seem to be the major ones that I play in on a daily basis: RELATIONSHIPS (marriage, parenting, family, friends, neighbors) RECREATION (music, running, cycling, home projects, basketball with…