Hendrix says that negativity is a wish in disguise. This means behind the negative or hurtful thoughts, there’s an unmet desire.
Read More Making Marriage Simple: Negativity is a wish in disguise (ch.7)I’ve been reading this book on marriage by Harville Hendrix on the recommendation of a good friend whose a psycho-analyst and therapist. It’s been helpful to work through my own patterns of thinking and emotions. (link here) It is a lot harder to find our peaceful center when looking into the face of another—especially when […]
Read More Staying Put in Your Relationshipsource:Marriage is…”flawed people coming together to create a space of stability, love and consolation”. Our culture has created very unrealistic values and expectations on marriage and partners
Read More Repost: You Never Marry the Right PersonFrom the Boone Center for the Family I’ve NEVER done this! Blame is one of four coping reactions to pain. It’s common for “blamers” to react in an aggressive fashion that accuses another. In reaction to feeling unloved or unsafe, a blamer tends to make demands or demean others. It’s ironic that a person reacts with […]
Read More #MarriageStrong: BlamingThe 5-7 minute rule of talking about work with your spouse: In countless counseling sessions, I’ve heard partners share their struggles with the “work conversations” when getting home after a long day. In the workplace setting, there are conflicts, crises, and criticism which takes an emotional toll. Naturally, a spouse might want to share their […]
Read More The 5-7 minute rule of talking about work with your spouseVideos and talks about the crisis of family and marriage from the wide landscape of Christian faith as hosted by Pope Francis. http://humanum.it/en/ The Complementarity of Man and Woman: An International Colloquium is a gathering of leaders and scholars from many religions across the globe, to examine and propose anew the beauty of the relationship […]
Read More The Complementarity of Man and Woman: An International ColloquiumOkay…I agree with this article IF it means that a happy wife is responsible for her own happiness AND that the husband can ADD to this mutually satisfying enterprise. In other words, I don’t believe that a husband is SOLELY responsible for the happiness of his wife. That is her inner work to do, with her […]
Read More Husband or Wife? The Partner Whose Happiness Matters More For The Marriage“As a relationship becomes more constructive, the individuals who compose it become freer to change.” – Howard Clinebell Focus on the enrichment of your marriage (relationship), meeting each other’s mutual needs, as a means to become a whole person.
Read More Relationships as Sandboxes for Growth“A happy marriage is one where there is a relatively high degree of mutual need satisfaction. Conversely, an unhappy marriage has a high degree of mutual need deprivation. If a relationship produces chronic, unmet emotional hungers, it will diminish the self-esteem of those involved, resulting in rejection, anger, and aggression.” – Howard Clinebell
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