Hendrix says that negativity is a wish in disguise. This means behind the negative or hurtful thoughts, there's an unmet desire.
I've been reading this book on marriage by Harville Hendrix on the recommendation of a good friend whose a psycho-analyst and therapist. It's been helpful to work through my own patterns of thinking and emotions. (link here) It is a lot harder to find our peaceful center when looking into the face of another—especially when … Continue reading Staying Put in Your Relationship
source:Marriage is..."flawed people coming together to create a space of stability, love and consolation". Our culture has created very unrealistic values and expectations on marriage and partners
From the Boone Center for the Family I've NEVER done this! Blame is one of four coping reactions to pain. It's common for "blamers" to react in an aggressive fashion that accuses another. In reaction to feeling unloved or unsafe, a blamer tends to make demands or demean others. It's ironic that a person reacts with … Continue reading #MarriageStrong: Blaming