I chose to read Brene Brown’s book, Daring Greatly, for a seminary class because shame sucks. Her work has been so helpful to many, including myself. Last night, I was recounting how helpful it is to be aware of your shame triggers so that you recognize the patterns.
Brown says that “Shame is the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing that we are flawed and therefore unworthy of love and belonging”, (p.69). I describe it as the feelings and thoughts that tell us “something is wrong with me”. I remember feeling different when I was younger, asking myself “what’s wrong with me”. It’s an ugly feeling.
Brown lists 12 shame categories to be aware of. Her books talks about building shame resilience as a way to cope with the shame triggers:
- appearance and body image
- money and work
- mental and physical health
- surviving trauma
- being stereotyped or labeled
I never quite knew how to word this concept until now. Forewarning: provocative statements up ahead…
“This is how God trusts incarnation. God allows us to see God and uses that as his word. It’s through us. Therefore the text itself is three steps forward and two steps back. It gets it, it loses it, it get it it loses it…My Jesus hermeneutic is like this: Jesus never quotes Joshua and Judges. Most of Joshua and Judges are two steps backward books. Doesn’t mean they shouldn’t be in the Bible, I’m fine with that, there’s a lot in my life that’s two steps backwards. The text mirrors human development and growth and understanding” – Richard Rohr
Here’s the second quote I liked: “When it says Yahweh says… I know they [the writers of the Bible] wouldn’t like this but Yahweh didn’t say that. They said that. Like we do. We project our own consciousness onto God to justify our own evil behavior. We still do that-but that’s a totally different narrative for an evangelical.” – Richard Rohr
I always “knew” this as felt knowledge but couldn’t figure out words for it.