pastoral care

Family Value: Self-Motivated

My childhood required me to be self-motivated and driven. It was in part to survive but also because I wanted something new that I hadn’t experienced before.

My wife and I are very self-motivated and driven. This means that we don’t need someone telling us what to do every corner. We do need advice, some guidance, and support along the way. But our dreams and hopes give us fuel to be motivated.

We also value freedom and personal responsibility. Our work will need to speak for itself. The way we carry ourselves and care for others will be signs of our freedom and taking responsibility.

We hope to pass these values on to our boys. We know their path will look different than others. We don’t expect them to be like us or to do the things we do. But we hope that they will learn the value and practices of being self-motivated and to take personal responsibility.

I’m not the smartest person. Really. I’m not. But these values and actions push me to exceed my limited “smartness”.

Self-motivation and drive translates into practices of living out of my hopes and dreams, my goals. It means I’m going to think through my goals and how to reach them. It means I’m going to ask others for help along the way. It means that I don’t need someone telling me, step by step, how to live my life but instead to encourage me to keep discovering, being aware, and taking responsibility.

It’s a different way to parent as well.

My kids grades are a reflection of multiple layers. While I care about the letter, I care about the effort and motivation. And it’s their grades to own. Yes, they need support and we’re here for them. Yes, they might not like certain subjects and struggle with some areas. But ultimately, we want them to own their studies.

There is a lot of empathy and grace for this process. Especially during the pandemic. ūüôā

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pastoral care

Roots and Storms

When life gets crazy, what habits and practices do you turn to for grounding and rootedness?  Storms will come and shake us up.  No doubt about that.  

Sickness.
Finances.
Dark nights of the soul.
Relationship stress.
Lack of direction in life.

What or who do you turn to for help and grounding? ¬†When you’re in the storm, we may get rattled but we can turn towards our roots that help us make sense of what is happening. ¬†

ROOTS

For me, faith, friends, and family are a source of rootedness in the middle of the storm. ¬†And I’ve misfortune this year. ¬†I’ve had to turn to my three F’s (LOL!). ¬†When I’ve felt overwhelmed and lost, I’ve reached out as best as I could. ¬†

The other day, I was lying down on the floor, symbolic of Psalm 23 (He makes me lie down in green pastures) and was transported to a field. ¬†I felt the wind, the brush, and the Presence. ¬†Just then, my son bursted through the door and says in his teenage voice, “Dad, what are you doing down there!?” ¬†I told him, “I’m praying, duh!”. ¬†LOL!

A storm had just hit our family and I needed to be reminded that the Lord is our Shepherd and that we lack no good thing.  I then reached out to friends and family for prayer and shared with them my struggles and feelings.  I felt the Presence of the Shepherd with me through my faith, friends, and family.  They helped me return to my roots.  

During this Thanksgiving season, may you return to your roots that have helped you through the big storms.  May we be able to say thanks and give our friends and family the gift of embrace, as they have to us.

Peace

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death, Family, funeral, hispanic traditions

Researching cultural traditions regarding death and rituals. ¬†“…Cremations are very popular in some parts of Mexico because ashes are easy to move during times of political tumult, and graves are often robbed. In rural areas, Catholic Mexicans usually prefer burials to cremations.”

http://www.pbs.org/wnet/onourownterms/articles/cultural.html

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Family, Marriage, Pastoral Theology

Videos and talks about the crisis of family and marriage from the wide landscape of Christian faith as hosted by Pope Francis.

http://humanum.it/en/

The Complementarity of Man and Woman: An International Colloquium is a gathering of leaders and scholars from many religions across the globe, to examine and propose anew the beauty of the relationship between the man and the woman, in order to support and reinvigorate marriage and family life for the flourishing of human society.

Witnesses will draw from‚Ä® the wisdom of their religious tradition and cultural experience as they attest to the power and vitality of the complementary union of man and woman. It is hoped that the colloquium be a catalyst for creative language and projects, as well as for global solidarity, in the work‚Ä® of strengthening the nuptial relationship, both for the good of the spouses themselves and for the good of all who depend upon them.

The Colloquium is sponsored by the Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith and co-sponsored by the Pontifical Council for the Family, the Pontifical Council for Interreligious Dialogue, and‚Ä® the Pontifical Council for the Promotion of Christian Unity.

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